Style, Travel

Saint Heron Brings “PROCLAMATION!” to Houston


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On Wednesday I began to plan a trip to Houston for that following Friday after receiving a screenshot of a Saint Heron instagram post by my girl Mel with a caption of, “OMG sis !!!”

Finally a PROCLAMATION party in Houston! PROCLAMATION is a party series hosted by the Saint Heron team encouraging one to “express [their] manifestos and leave them at the door,” as stated upon their website.

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Instantly I replied back a confirmation that I purchased my ticket and was going to be there after doing a happy dance in a fast food drive thru line.

I’ve been waiting for the opportunity to attend a Saint Heron event. I didn’t think it would be this soon, as I was banking on them hosting something during the Mardi Gras season while Mel, a few friends, and I would be visiting New Orleans.

I always imagined that if a Saint Heron event to be thrown in Houston, that it would be the best one to date due to the founder’s roots. After immediately purchasing my ticket, I invited others within my iPhone contacts who also favor Saint Heron and Solange, because she was the host.

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Upon arriving to the event location, Julep, I walked right passed writing my proclamation and began meeting people my friend Mel calls friends. After that, we went inside to dance to songs that are not on today’s top 40, but songs you would hear at your family reunion; those songs you sang hard to in the shower while growing up in the 90’s and early 2000’s, the songs that made you fall in love or a proud Houstonian.

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I enjoyed the many songs played with memories that are my type of house party approved for great dancing. The set was spun by Solange’s DJ that flew in from LA, however one could tell that the playlist was curated by her.

After said hard singing, dancing, complimenting all of the great style and juicy fro’s in the room, we then wrote our PROCLAMATION before having an on site photoshoot.

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The only thing I wished to happen less was the major Solange stalking. We all adore her, however it would have been cool if she was viewed more as a human, and appreciated for her art, aesthetic, and creating an opportunity for us all to connect.

It was major fan-girling happening and I wished more could’ve stayed within the moment by dancing, having a good time, being present, meeting others, instead of literally staring at her in the middle of the dance floor. True story. Stalker vibes are no longer cool in 2016.

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However, I’m glad that I traveled to Houston in two short days of notice to spend time with my girl Mel, to meet a lot of creatives, work with Mel & a new photographer named Eric (who is beyond brilliant), slightly fan-girl, dress up & go out, and meet Mel’s family & boyfriend.

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Have you ever been to a PROCLAMATION in your city? Tell me your experience in the comment section!

May God’s grace be with you.

Music

Jcksn Ave. “All These Dreams”


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This song has been on repeat since being released. I love this song and it will definitely be the theme song this year for me. Plus I love Madi (sweetheart with the hat on), and can not wait for the day that we work together.

This song is available on iTunes now! Tell me what you think and share your God-dreams with me in the comment section.

May God’s grace be with you.

Style

Why I’m “Never” Getting Married


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Okay, you’re right. Never is not for me to say because according to Ecclesiastes 6:10, “Everything has already been decided. It was known long ago what each person would be. So there’s no use arguing with God about your destiny.”

However, after feeling so much pressure to be married, I began to question whether if it was a good desire, or a bad one with impure motives that could possibly be in result of societal grooming, and worldly or carnal pressure.

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I thought of how it may be grooming particularly from childhood with the baby alive, easy bake oven, kitchen set, disney princess gowns and plastic heels. Well, let’s leave the gown and heels at 3 to my innate fashion sense.

I thought more on grooming as an aunt whenever I hear my nephew regurgitate societal standards whenever he screams, “My Little Ponies are for girls!” When I know that he loves that show, (he can be apart of the little bronies crew all day at Aunt Kali’s house.)

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And I thought of grooming as a professional in the childcare industry. By being allowed into the “village” of raising foster children, and how we caregivers groom these children into adulthood to “make it,” and reach pivotal steps to be deemed as successful. Pressure to be this well rounded human according to societal and CPS standards. To go to college and complete; because the drop out is seldom glorified. Unless they prove to be brilliant with a successful business, invention, or whatever culture will accept.

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Listen, I believe there are good and bad paths. As an older woman, I should teach the women younger than me. As well as the older man should teach the younger man as stated in Titus 2. I also believe that the Lord should be a lamp unto everyone’s feet, as stated in Psalm 119:105. He will show us the path that He has for you & I as His creations. So I recognize that by looks, one could not tell whether grooming is occurring; or if I really desired that easy bake oven at 3 because I wanted to eat cake all day, (that desire hasn’t left.) But I am saying that motive will determine a lot here.

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I thought of wordly or carnal pressure when I hear songs entitled, “Boaz, I’ve Been Looking for You.”

And I think of wordly or carnal pressure whenever I scroll through countless social media posts promising marriage for the Christian girl, as if we deserve this life event from “struggling” through the single years because our minds are focused on waiting for a Godly man, while becoming this perfect woman to wed. Especially because usually if the elephant in the room isn’t faulting us for not being married by 25, then we do it to ourself.

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It can easily seem like Bitter Betty has her roots still and that Princess Petty is running things here with deciding to “never” get married. But shout out to the Lord for revealing through my last relationship how entailed I was in, the pressure.

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Now, to you whom are in a relationship, this is not a win to, “going with the flow,” as I believe this idea is passed by those who act as though they don’t want to make a choice to be intentional with you, but have made the choice already.

No, I  believe after stating intentions, then the two should go with the God-flow. Both trusting Him with your relationship by involving Him in relation to your purpose, together.

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Me deciding that I’m “Never” Getting Married takes the pressure off of myself mentally as a human, and especially as a woman. I’ve always had this subconscious of doing it for myself. But now I’m back from doing it for man to, doing it for God.

Doing it could mean, keeping my body healthy and strong for service unto the Lord, not vanity and glory to my body to attract a mate, and then to keep him. Doing it could mean, keeping a home pristine for hospitality purposes, not to prove my worthiness as a future wife. Doing it could mean passionately and effectively running a business as #GodsGirlBoss because He created me to do so, not for #relationshipgoals and to care about being perceived as a boss couple.

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I thankfully grew up in a home of witnessing, doing it for myself, as I saw my mother get things accomplished without a father in my home. If the car was messed up, she would get a book, purchase the parts, and fix it herself.

I saw my mom take care of me in her singularity as she chased away the boys with her gun, mowed the lawn, protected me, and install a fence for our pets. The Lord was my father, (I didn’t know then,) but He also really graced her in being a great mother and an awesome presence for me to not really falter because of my lack of having a father. Mommy, if you are reading this, you rock girl!

So I believe transitioning from doing it for myself to doing it for God was easier than a jump from doing it for man, to doing it for God. But I’m graced. Which is most likely why deciding that, I’m “Never” Getting Married, has helped so in this huge jump.

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I pressured myself by wanting to keep the home together, so that I can be a good wife. Keep my body together, so that I can be a good wife. Everything tied to, so that I can be a good wife. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being prepared by God, and nothing wrong with the things above except if they are tied solely and driven by a motive as such.

For me, it was a slight idolization of marriage if you ask me; because I should do all things to the glory of God.

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I cringe thinking of the day after the honeymoon if I were to marry my last and final boyfriend. There was so much pressure of marriage on my shoulders and I would’ve died if we were stuck under the same roof FOREVER, because God definitely led me out of that relationship for many reasons.

But yes you are right. I know that if you or I are to glorify God through marriage then we will have enough grace and time to perfect all that it means to be a wife (or husband) in God’s standards.

 

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What really drove this, I’m “Never” Getting Married, thing was the thought of my niece Ashley, (who would’ve been 22,) passing last summer. I thought of our many girl talks of relationships, marriage, and all of the above.

Ashley was in a serious relationship before her passing. In fact, she died 4 days after her 1 year anniversary with her boyfriend. He was a gentleman. The family approved, and of course we all could hear faint sounds of wedding bells in the distance.

But God had a different plan for her life than from what we subconsciously thought was to be the next big thing.

First comes school. Then, comes marriage. Then, comes a baby in a baby carriage.

Seriously? What if it’s not that? Marriage shouldn’t be the top event of your life.

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Me remembering her life and death reminds me every time of how God is in control.

I looked in the mirror one Sunday morning when I was totally over the feels, pressure, sadness of my last breakup and everything else that may have been associated; and that’s when I finally decided, I’m “Never” Getting Married.

The thought of, what if I die young and it was never His intentions for me to marry, absolutely blew my mind.

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Then, 1 Corinthians 7, Instructions on Marriage came to mind. I then went to go study it and I was reminded of being content and not changing how God found me. I was reminded how it is not a sin to marry, and of 1 Corinthians 7:32-35 specifically stating:

“I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him. But a married man has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible.”

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In that moment I was reminded that my life, hope, and future belongs to God. That marriage isn’t an end all, be all. God is bigger than earthly marriage and marriage is beautiful, but I should focus on Him and what He’s doing right now as stated in Matthew 6:34,

“Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don’t get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes.”

Not on some distant future event that costs someone’s annual salary, and that I won’t remember, (according to married folks.) AND THAT MAY NEVER HAPPEN!!!

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Honestly, I ‘m already married according to Isaiah 54:5. Now I’ve been even more motivated to keep my home, body, and etc., together for THE LORD. I’ve been having my eyes on the wrong thing; cheating on my husband with the desire of an earthly one.

 With this misplaced, I would’ve entered into any relationship WRONG! I don’t know when the point occurred to where I’ve allowed this, doing it for man, subconsciously consume me. But it’s not going to any longer by God’s help.

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Now my mate vision goggles are off with men. Everybody is viewed as a brother. I can comfortably laugh without the dang concern of sending a representative. Even if my brother is sending his best version of himself to please me, I’m still at ease because I’ve decided to devout my life to God as a single.

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I still say, I’m “Never” Getting Married lightly because I do know that God is sovereign. Jesus is the Potter, and I am the clay. And I haven’t forgotten yet that our destinies were set a long time ago. I’m content with never marrying. I’m on God’s plan.

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Wearing Forever21 and H&M.

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Photographed by Najee Rashad. Gif concept by Jazzmine.

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What do you think of the idea of “Never” Getting Married? Does it scare you? Do you feel pressured to get married? Share your thoughts in the comment section!

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May God’s grace be with you!

Sets, Shopping

Mardi Gras 2016: Zulu Ball


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2 weeks exactly until the Zulu Ball! I’m so excited to return for my 2nd year to the ball, and 3rd year to New Orleans during the Mardi Gras Season. New Orleans is such a magical city, and I can’t imagine not returning at least once a year, if God allows. If I didn’t already pick my dress, these designers would definitely inspire me during my 2 week dress shopping. By looking at this set, you may have a guess as to what may be inspiring my look this year. If you follow me on snapchat, then you may have already had a sneak peak. That’s a benefit for following me. Pull up your snap chat app now to follow me at: TheKingKali. After that you can check out these awesome gowns from Zac Posen, Reem Acra, Monique Lhuillier, Christian Siriano, Missoni, Oscar De La Renta, and Balmain.
Mardi Gras 2016: Zulu Ball

 

Which dress would you love to see at the Zulu Ball? And if you are attending, say so in the comment section so that we can meet!
May God’s grace be with you!
Encouragement

Testimony Tuesday: Beverly Eze


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As someone who used to do hair (just an old high school side hustle,) I don’t trust too many people ‘in my head.’ For one, I think that I have enough skills and sense to watch a youtube video to achieve a look. And secondly, DIY hairstyle equals saving $100+ that could go toward a new look from any of my favorite stores. Outfits definitely reign more supreme in my personal budgeting than beauty.

90% of the time I am usually digging my fro, so I rarely desire a new hairstyle. But if I am in the market of changing my style, (hair style that is,) Beverly Eze is one of the few that I actually trust, ‘in my head,’ as she is one to go beyond satisfaction. I personally choose beauty businesses that provide services that are passionate about what they do; and the only thing better than passion is purpose.

Not only has Beverly Eze made me more conscious of healthy hair with leading by example, but it was easy to trust her because she cares about health as a whole; may it be physically, spiritual, or nutritional, and I love learning about health and how I can better myself. Plus, she is just dang good. Refer to this post from two years ago to witness yourself a time when she killed my purple braids.

Beverly Eze is a 22 year old who does hair styling in Houston, TX. She also has a beauty vlog on Youtube, is #GodsGirlBoss, and has recently graduated from Texas Tech University.

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Kali: Tell me about yourself.

Beverly Eze: I am a Nigerian-American girl who loves God, loves meeting new people, and loves dogs. My hobbies are cooking, doing hair, traveling when my bank account permits, and arts & crafts.

Tell me about your brand, Beverly Eze.

The brand Beverly Eze (pronounced Eh-Zay,) is a vision that the Lord gave me while studying abroad in Europe during the summer of 2015. After making up my mind that the medical route was not for me, I decided to seek God’s face about what He wanted me to do and in which field He wanted me to serve Him in. When I finally decided to pursue my passion, it was a like breath of fresh air. The Beverly Eze brand strives to not only make women outwardly beautiful through various hair styles and more, but to uplift, inspire, and encourage women because true beauty comes from within.

That’s so beautiful! How did you feel and what were you thinking when you made up your mind to leave the medical route?

I made myself believe I was passionate about the medical route simply because it was something my family had instilled in me from a young age. It wasn’t until one day a friend said to me, “I know you are pursing medicine and all but is that REALLY what you want to do? You talk about hair and beauty more than medicine.” I heard something similar from friends in the past but that conversation made me re-evaluate my life. When I decided to tell my parents, I was nervous. The beauty industry tends to be looked down upon by my culture because it is not on the same caliber as doctors or lawyers. My parents weren’t too happy about my decision at first but they’ve become supportive now that they’ve seen how much this vision means to me and the work I’ve put in.

It’s a new year, what are your goals for 2016? Personally, and for the brand Beverly Eze?

Some of my personal goals for 2016 involve simply to seek God more. I’m excited to serve more! In ministry, in my community, my home, etc. As for the Beverly Eze brand, a goal of mine is to give back to the community with what I have now. I would like to publicize more and have giveaways too. I also hope to put together another photo shoot and style people for weddings and editorials.

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You mentioned your brand giving back. In what ways would you like to give back to your community now?

I would like to have a prom giveaway where I collaborate with a makeup artist and provide a deserving high school girl with the opportunity to have her hair and makeup done for no cost. Prom can be very costly so it is the least I can do for now.

Do you have any advice for those stepping out on a God-vision?

My advice for those stepping out in faith on a God given vision would be to seek God first and foremost, (Matthew 6:33). Also, write your vision in a book or even make a vision board. I don’t believe that goals and dreams should stay in our head. Write it down and make it plain. Ask yourself, “is the ultimate goal for this vision to bring God glory?” Once that is established, put one foot in front of the other and begin working towards your God-given vision.

That’s great! Would you like to share your testimony of how you accepted Jesus for salvation?

Sure. As a kid, I remember being involved in church activities. I even knew how to recite all the 66 books of the Bible. I grew up always going to church, but in my mind, it was just something people do Sundays. I did not know or care to have a relationship with Christ. When I left to college, I thought this was my chance to finally be, “free,” not knowing the enemy had me right where he wanted me. I was still living in sin my sophomore year and it left me so empty. I was just tired of being tired. That following summer after my sophomore year was when I heard the Gospel and what Jesus did for me on the cross. The Spirit of God ravished my heart and it’s been history ever since.

Referring to your brands goals of not only making women outwardly beautiful through hair styles, you mentioned that you also want to uplift, inspire, and encourage women because true beauty comes from within. Can you give me more insight on true beauty coming from within?

In today’s society, we’ve allowed society to set a standard of how a woman should look; a false sense of beauty. We spend so much money on, “beating our faces,” and, “slaying our hair,” but we don’t take the time to work on ourselves. It saddens me that some of these women don’t even love themselves and rely on likes from social media for validation because that is where their identity lies. Makeup and hair is great but how awesome would society be if we as women strive to uplift encourage, and empower one another? True beauty starts with knowing who you are in Christ first, and using that to encourage other women to find their true identity.

What message would you like to leave the world?

We can achieve great things, build great brands, even become famous. But without Christ all of that is meaningless. He’s the reason behind everything I do and I’ve noticed a difference in my life and the things I do when I let God take over. He gave me new insight on things; and even when I fail at certain things along the way, He makes living worth while. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-7

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Check out these images from Beverly’s recent photoshoot entitled, “10 Shade of Beauty.”

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You can make an appointment with Beverly Eze on Styleseat right now! Also follow and like Beverly Eze on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube, for future give aways and to keep up to date with everything involving this amazingly new beauty & health brand.

What do you think of this new brand? Say so in the comment section.

May God’s grace be with you!

Encouragement

Pastor Rich Wilkerson Jr. Interview at The Breakfast Club Power 105.1


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I’ve been needing a little spiritual pick me up, or encouragement lately. This interview was saturated in love, and it was a great visual lesson in how to be an authentic God influencer in today’s culture.

Share your thoughts & encourage someone in the comment section today.
Blessings & may God’s grace be with you!
Style

Slow Down Baby


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Have you ever felt like you were moving, but not making any moves. I do sometimes. Not only that, but set backs on top of not progressing is an annoyance that I feel are avoidable & confusing.

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I’m a #Girlboss. I love completing tasks & accomplishing goals. I love thinking ten steps ahead. And nothing is more rewarding than saying, DONE! (Inserts happy dance.)

I thought that it was God just giving me the entire humble pie; not just a slice. But the lesson plan did not have HUMILITY written at the top. The lesson that I was getting, was the Lord saying, SLOW DOWN BABY.

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I couldn’t understand my current plight a few weeks ago. Planning things for TheKingKali.com, set back. Losing my car key, set back for work and everything in my life. Planning finances, set back with emergency purchases like: power cord, new battery for Mac, random new tire, now new car key?

Oh what else? I guess it’s cool to have your pants on backwards, and locking yourself out of your geico app when attempting to get your car towed to purchase this new car key. Oh it isn’t? Well I guess I’m not cool then.

Let’s add a little seasoning, how about locking your dress on the way out of the door to church, to later tripping over this said dress down the church pew and ripping a new hole into it with your awesome new stiletto booties. This was after leaving your phone, best friend leaving her bible, because you guys are too shook after witnessing a high school football team give their lives to Christ.

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It seemed like one thing was trying to set everything back that week. I kept trying to find excuses but everything pointed back to me. Although I didn’t realize the overall lesson in the moment, the Holy Spirit kept prompting me to keep going; because that Saturday, I was going to allow a lost key decide my current situational fate. All due to me not wanting to be a burden so much, so I was just going to sit at home and survive.

The Holy Spirit has been teaching me the importance of faithfulness lately, and so I got reminded of Luke 16:10. He questioned me like, Kali, are you really going to allow you losing one little ol’ key to ruin your day, you not going to church, you not feeding your cats, and any other responsibilities + all of the above? Every time I wanted to get in the feels, He reminded me that: God is good.

I trusted God whenever my mind desired to worry Saturday night while searching for my car key. But I got that lesson. I can’t worry. Worrying isn’t going to make my key come back. But, I can trust God and keep going.

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I can trust that He is good, and cares about me and my current situations. I can also trust that He sees me. I can trust that when I pray, He is listening. And I remembered the Parable of the Persistent Widow, where Jesus told His disciples a story, teaching them that they should always pray and never give up.

So, I didn’t worry. But I did get humbled in asking for help during my struggle. With this help I was grateful, appreciative, and was cognizant to say thank you at all times. I learned to trust God in this situation. And now I understood a little deeper to what God was telling me: Slow down baby. Refocus. Regroup. Reprioritze. What is important?

I was planning and not making the changes to execute those plans. Instead of making changes and disciplining myself; I, like a child, was just going to tire myself out by trying to do it all. I was telling myself that I needed to, grind, stay up later, and hustle. And if I wasn’t a walking zombie, I wasn’t bossing it enough. Which in all is ineffective regarding yours & my health.

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A #Girlboss is disciplined. We make choices and say no to what’s not feasible at the moment, and without apologizing for itThis #Girlboss is going to, boss up. I am getting back to a disciplined me. A focused me. With a healthy balance of what I care most about.

How will I slow down? With asking myself… what is important?

God is.

TheKingKali LLC, is. Family & friends are. My home & cats are. My church is. My health is. My knowledge & growing is. Nothing else is (as) important.

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I will slow down by giving the reigns back to God. Being not in control, (once again He keeps reminding me because He is a good Father,) shows me at the end of the day that, I really don’t have this. This meaning me, my life, the world, whether the flowers bloom or wither. Nothing.

God does, and I can’t worry about trying to make changes when I don’t have the willpower, nor the wisdom. He foresees everything, so I must trust that it is good, because ultimately He knows no other way than to be good.

A song by India.Arie replayed in my heart to calm me that week (as He knows music is a way to my soul.) “You need to slow down baby, you’re going too fast…”

I don’t think too well when I’m rushing. I listen to calming music to slow myself and my brain, or else I’ll wreck myself. I also like to be around people who are calm and serene too.

Even high energy drives me up the wall. Probably why I’m an introvert because if I don’t pull away from that, I’m crazy. I’m glad that God loves me, as is.

Take time out at the beginning of this new year to slow down if need be, to refocus & be still with the Lord. Have you ever experienced a day where you just needed to slow down? Tell me about it in the comment section!

IMG_1158Wearing Forever21 & a thrifted find from when I was heavily inspired by Tina Turner, (hence the sparkling dress.) Photographed by Melanee Brown.

Happy NYE & may God’s grace be with you in 2016!