No Angel

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I’m not as good as you think or say that I am. And I’m tired of hearing it. It can’t possibly be true. Especially when I need to plea on my knees that I be kept from deliberate sins because I can’t even know all of the sins lurking in my own heart.


What’s true is that God is only truly good. So where does that put me? In the NOT bin with the remainder of humanity and God-creation.

But I’m not truly good. And it’s no longer good for me to self-righteously think that I am. Nor is it healthy to compare worth of myself to another whom through my mere human point of view, I count as good; but if I were to have a spiritual perspective, that individual is as pleasing to God through faith. Thankfully because of Christ’s sacrifice only.


For me, good is comfortable, non-challenging, and a destiny. Fortunately, a destination I couldn’t have ever met without the gift of salvation from Jesus.


Good visually impaired me. However it made the senses of the nose more effective in detecting the stench of sin being left behind when my good thoughts of myself didn’t align with the reality of my wicked heart.

Never am I in singular, good. Only I AM. Not I. That’s why if you see any good, it’s God.

May I blow a trumpet for the Lord only, and never boast in anything but Him. May I remember that good is not a destination because Christ has already made me good with the Father. But may I also remember that I am on a journey that Jesus will perfect by His Spirit, not by the physicality of my flesh and the help of a visual impairment of self-righteousness.


Take a good look, friends, at who you were when you got called into this life. I don’t see many of “the brightest and the best” among you, not many influential, not many from high-society families. Isn’t it obvious that God deliberately chose men and women that the culture overlooks and exploits and abuses, chose these “nobodies” to expose the hollow pretensions of the “somebodies”? That makes it quite clear that none of you can get by with blowing your own horn before God. Everything that we have—right thinking and right living, a clean slate and a fresh start—comes from God by way of Jesus Christ. That’s why we have the saying, “If you’re going to blow a horn, blow a trumpet for God.” 1 Corinthians 1:26-31


Wearing H&M, ZARA, Sam Moon, Topshop, & Forever21.

I love comments so tell me what you think! May God’s grace be with you.

Style, Travel

Ride Around in that H-Town

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Day 2!

After the proclamation I got the amazing opportunity to work with two sick photographers. All they were needing was a subject, and I was thanking God to be available.

Due to unforeseen weather that caught us en route to the photoshoot, we had to scout a new location. As we drove around Houston, I got a chance to become more familiar with my two photographers for the day. What a lucky gal right?!

You can tell by now that I love my girl Melanee Brown. She is the first photographer TheKingKali.com had since being birthed by God. She makes me comfortable through insecurities. She is extremely patient and professional, although she doesn’t have to be because we are homegirls. I love her eye and will always be a big fan of her work. You can check out Melanee’s photographs from our day together below and check out her portfolio here!

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Because Melanee is such a humble and hardworking beast, I had the opportunity to meet Eric. Eric agreed to meeting with Melanee to teach and collab. I am so glad that I met Eric. Eric is this amazingly witty, and genuine creative. We discussed future goals, our travel experiences, and our personal occurrence of our previous night with Solange. We also discussed where we were from that was accompanied with relatable family stories. 87% of this conversation was delivered through sarcasm and laughter. After having a fun experience of working with Eric, then did I get to know more of him through his website. This post revealed how much more brilliant he is, and why I am glad to have met him. You can check out Eric’s photographs from our day together below and check out his portfolio here!

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Wearing H&M & Puma X Solange Trinomic XT2 Trainer

After the photoshoot, I grabbed my favorites to-go’s for my sister Mithi, nephew Aiden, and for myself, which are Timmy Chan’s & the Shipley’s on Ella. Then the three of us got on the road to Dallas AKA Triple D.

It’s interesting to see the end result to an artists eye. I’m definitely using these amazing images for marketing purposes. Thank you Melanee, Eric, and CJ for such a fun, productive, and freezing day out. I wouldn’t want to ride around in that H-Town with anyone other than you guys.

A trip to Houston is always refreshing for my roots. Have you ever traveled to Houston? What do you love to do when you ride around in that H-Town? Comment below telling me what you like to do and what you love about my hometown.

May God’s grace be with you!


Why I’m “Never” Getting Married



Okay, you’re right. Never is not for me to say because according to Ecclesiastes 6:10, “Everything has already been decided. It was known long ago what each person would be. So there’s no use arguing with God about your destiny.”

However, after feeling so much pressure to be married, I began to question whether if it was a good desire, or a bad one with impure motives that could possibly be in result of societal grooming, and worldly or carnal pressure.


I thought of how it may be grooming particularly from childhood with the baby alive, easy bake oven, kitchen set, disney princess gowns and plastic heels. Well, let’s leave the gown and heels at 3 to my innate fashion sense.

I thought more on grooming as an aunt whenever I hear my nephew regurgitate societal standards whenever he screams, “My Little Ponies are for girls!” When I know that he loves that show, (he can be apart of the little bronies crew all day at Aunt Kali’s house.)


And I thought of grooming as a professional in the childcare industry. By being allowed into the “village” of raising foster children, and how we caregivers groom these children into adulthood to “make it,” and reach pivotal steps to be deemed as successful. Pressure to be this well rounded human according to societal and CPS standards. To go to college and complete; because the drop out is seldom glorified. Unless they prove to be brilliant with a successful business, invention, or whatever culture will accept.


Listen, I believe there are good and bad paths. As an older woman, I should teach the women younger than me. As well as the older man should teach the younger man as stated in Titus 2. I also believe that the Lord should be a lamp unto everyone’s feet, as stated in Psalm 119:105. He will show us the path that He has for you & I as His creations. So I recognize that by looks, one could not tell whether grooming is occurring; or if I really desired that easy bake oven at 3 because I wanted to eat cake all day, (that desire hasn’t left.) But I am saying that motive will determine a lot here.


I thought of wordly or carnal pressure when I hear songs entitled, “Boaz, I’ve Been Looking for You.”

And I think of wordly or carnal pressure whenever I scroll through countless social media posts promising marriage for the Christian girl, as if we deserve this life event from “struggling” through the single years because our minds are focused on waiting for a Godly man, while becoming this perfect woman to wed. Especially because usually if the elephant in the room isn’t faulting us for not being married by 25, then we do it to ourself.


It can easily seem like Bitter Betty has her roots still and that Princess Petty is running things here with deciding to “never” get married. But shout out to the Lord for revealing through my last relationship how entailed I was in, the pressure.


Now, to you whom are in a relationship, this is not a win to, “going with the flow,” as I believe this idea is passed by those who act as though they don’t want to make a choice to be intentional with you, but have made the choice already.

No, I  believe after stating intentions, then the two should go with the God-flow. Both trusting Him with your relationship by involving Him in relation to your purpose, together.


Me deciding that I’m “Never” Getting Married takes the pressure off of myself mentally as a human, and especially as a woman. I’ve always had this subconscious of doing it for myself. But now I’m back from doing it for man to, doing it for God.

Doing it could mean, keeping my body healthy and strong for service unto the Lord, not vanity and glory to my body to attract a mate, and then to keep him. Doing it could mean, keeping a home pristine for hospitality purposes, not to prove my worthiness as a future wife. Doing it could mean passionately and effectively running a business as #GodsGirlBoss because He created me to do so, not for #relationshipgoals and to care about being perceived as a boss couple.


I thankfully grew up in a home of witnessing, doing it for myself, as I saw my mother get things accomplished without a father in my home. If the car was messed up, she would get a book, purchase the parts, and fix it herself.

I saw my mom take care of me in her singularity as she chased away the boys with her gun, mowed the lawn, protected me, and install a fence for our pets. The Lord was my father, (I didn’t know then,) but He also really graced her in being a great mother and an awesome presence for me to not really falter because of my lack of having a father. Mommy, if you are reading this, you rock girl!

So I believe transitioning from doing it for myself to doing it for God was easier than a jump from doing it for man, to doing it for God. But I’m graced. Which is most likely why deciding that, I’m “Never” Getting Married, has helped so in this huge jump.


I pressured myself by wanting to keep the home together, so that I can be a good wife. Keep my body together, so that I can be a good wife. Everything tied to, so that I can be a good wife. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being prepared by God, and nothing wrong with the things above except if they are tied solely and driven by a motive as such.

For me, it was a slight idolization of marriage if you ask me; because I should do all things to the glory of God.


I cringe thinking of the day after the honeymoon if I were to marry my last and final boyfriend. There was so much pressure of marriage on my shoulders and I would’ve died if we were stuck under the same roof FOREVER, because God definitely led me out of that relationship for many reasons.

But yes you are right. I know that if you or I are to glorify God through marriage then we will have enough grace and time to perfect all that it means to be a wife (or husband) in God’s standards.



What really drove this, I’m “Never” Getting Married, thing was the thought of my niece Ashley, (who would’ve been 22,) passing last summer. I thought of our many girl talks of relationships, marriage, and all of the above.

Ashley was in a serious relationship before her passing. In fact, she died 4 days after her 1 year anniversary with her boyfriend. He was a gentleman. The family approved, and of course we all could hear faint sounds of wedding bells in the distance.

But God had a different plan for her life than from what we subconsciously thought was to be the next big thing.

First comes school. Then, comes marriage. Then, comes a baby in a baby carriage.

Seriously? What if it’s not that? Marriage shouldn’t be the top event of your life.


Me remembering her life and death reminds me every time of how God is in control.

I looked in the mirror one Sunday morning when I was totally over the feels, pressure, sadness of my last breakup and everything else that may have been associated; and that’s when I finally decided, I’m “Never” Getting Married.

The thought of, what if I die young and it was never His intentions for me to marry, absolutely blew my mind.


Then, 1 Corinthians 7, Instructions on Marriage came to mind. I then went to go study it and I was reminded of being content and not changing how God found me. I was reminded how it is not a sin to marry, and of 1 Corinthians 7:32-35 specifically stating:

“I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him. But a married man has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible.”


In that moment I was reminded that my life, hope, and future belongs to God. That marriage isn’t an end all, be all. God is bigger than earthly marriage and marriage is beautiful, but I should focus on Him and what He’s doing right now as stated in Matthew 6:34,

“Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don’t get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes.”

Not on some distant future event that costs someone’s annual salary, and that I won’t remember, (according to married folks.) AND THAT MAY NEVER HAPPEN!!!


Honestly, I ‘m already married according to Isaiah 54:5. Now I’ve been even more motivated to keep my home, body, and etc., together for THE LORD. I’ve been having my eyes on the wrong thing; cheating on my husband with the desire of an earthly one.

 With this misplaced, I would’ve entered into any relationship WRONG! I don’t know when the point occurred to where I’ve allowed this, doing it for man, subconsciously consume me. But it’s not going to any longer by God’s help.


Now my mate vision goggles are off with men. Everybody is viewed as a brother. I can comfortably laugh without the dang concern of sending a representative. Even if my brother is sending his best version of himself to please me, I’m still at ease because I’ve decided to devout my life to God as a single.


I still say, I’m “Never” Getting Married lightly because I do know that God is sovereign. Jesus is the Potter, and I am the clay. And I haven’t forgotten yet that our destinies were set a long time ago. I’m content with never marrying. I’m on God’s plan.


Wearing Forever21 and H&M.


Photographed by Najee Rashad. Gif concept by Jazzmine.


What do you think of the idea of “Never” Getting Married? Does it scare you? Do you feel pressured to get married? Share your thoughts in the comment section!


May God’s grace be with you!

Encouragement, Style

An Ode to 24

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Hi 24 year old Kali,


this is 23 year old Kali.

Man! You had a great year of being 23. It was challenging, but nonetheless amazing. You can trace God’s love all throughout!


24 is going to be just as awesome. I have a feeling that 24 might be rough. You’re going to really grow as you’ll be tested by the Lord. You’re also going to experience hardships. Just from being human. You’ll be attacked from Satan. And mostly… you’ll battle yourself.

But be brave baby. Fight with tears in your eyes. When your heart is low, right exactly then I want you to think of why the pain is worth it.


You gotta keep going. Yes my love. I know you’ve flattered yourself into thinking that life is to be perfect since knowing Christ. Really! It’s a cute thought. However my love.. it will never be reality.

But it’s an honor. Bad news will never triumph the Good News. Bad news will never triumph the Good News. Jesus took away your sins so that you may be reconciled to the Father. So lift your hands and praise God, for he is good. He is forever faithful. He is kind. And he loves you MADLY!


The Lord makes your heart beat. The Lord is breathing the air into your lungs. The Lord gives you a hope and a future. The Lord is your strength. You gotta keep going.

It’s okay to be in love again. It’s okay to be vulnerable. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to walk away from toxic relationships. I give you permission 24 year old Kali.


You keep going. You go & inspire someone else. You’re free. Now go tell them how to be free! Even if your lungs are weak, talk. Fill each sentence with all of their capacity, until they collapse. Even if people are intentionally planning to punish you, move. Walk through the fire while your senses near the hair follicles on the tip of your nose, yelp & yodel.


You’re gonna be alright. If God is for you, then what can be against you? Jesus is enough! Now go & always remember…

it’s not about you.


Expectant, excited, & with love,

23 year old Kali

TKK-Odeto24-0016Dress – H&M

Shoes – Dillard’s

Earrings – Nordstrom

Nose Ring – Claire’s

Happy birthday to the July born!

How would you encourage yourself going into your next birthday year? Or if you’ve been 24 before, what would you tell your 24 year old self? Share below!

May God’s grace be with you!


Church Wedding


Last weekend, I was so torn on how to spend my Easter holiday.

Since birth, it has been a tradition to travel to the country and spend it with my family. However, I had serving opportunities, and I was also invited to a wedding by my friend/brother in Christ. So I decided that I would miss my family gathering, as I would see them in the following month for graduation season. I decided to attend this beautiful wedding, where I met many beautiful spirits. My friend had a good time as he ate everything he could not have if not on a hiatus of his clean eating journey. I decided to join him and guiltlessly enjoyed the donut cake and Texas roadhouse rolls.

I didn’t take my camera to the event, as I wanted to honor the occasion and live in the moment. I made sure to capture what I wore to the wedding the following day.

When I woke up on Sunday morning, I started to truly miss being with my family, and spontaneously drove to Crockett, TX. These pictures were taken in my maternal grandparents’ church. It was there that I delivered some of my greatest speeches!

Throughout the shoot I was overwhelmed by the sacrifice of Jesus, and was in and out of prayer for others while praising the Lord for overcoming the world.

“What love is this, that you gave your life for me?”

Check out the remaining photographs within this collection on my VSCO Journal here!

Dress – H&M
Earrings – Nordstrom Rack
Shoes – Forever21
Purse – Sam Moon
Body Jewelry – Icing

Braids by Kim Oniya
Book with her now! She is AMAZING!
IG – @kimboleeeee

I pray that resurrection day kept you mindful of how much YOU are adored by the Holy Lord, Jesus Christ. You bae.

May God’s grace be with you!


J. Bolin Boot Camp

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4 what are mere mortals that you should think about them,
human beings that you should care for them?
5 Yet you made them only a little lower than God
and crowned them with glory and honor.

Psalm 8

No. Seriously.
The Lord had major plans for me this past Saturday. Plans for good and not for disaster, to give me a future and a hope. His body, which was given for me & His blood, which was poured out as a sacrifice for me; forever will be the foundation of my being. But ALSO.

God thinks about me.
God cares for me.

He’s crowned me with glory & honor.

Celebrity Stylist, J. Bolin, chose me in addition to 3 Dallas bloggers as panelists for his Fashion Stylist Boot Camp. This exclusive opportunity allowed us to share our brand & discuss the power of the virtual world.

As I listened, learned, and purposely became vulnerable, I could not fathom me being in the boot camp attendee’s chair just July 2014!

A quality of Jesus that I recognize & adore most of J. Bolin is his selflessness. He’s taught me extensively & most importantly, he has encouraged me in the Lord. I will be forever thankful for J. Bolin allowing the Holy Spirit to dwell inside of him, & work freely through him.

Glory to Jesus forever!

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Multicolored Fuzzy Sweater – F21

Faux Leather Pants – H&M

Slingback Pump – ZARA

Silver 3 Chain Necklace – F21

Septum Clicker & Philtrum Jewelry – Icing


What I Wore to the Lecrae Concert

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Last night was crae crae, pun intended. I attended the Anomaly concert showcasing Lecrae, Andy Mineo, DJ Promote, and my client J. Paul.

I remember being newly saved and looking for new music to listen to as the music that I was accustomed to was becoming less desirable, and offending the Holy Spirit inside of me. So I went to Best Buy and purchased my first Rap album that glorified God, Rehab, by Lecrae. I had it on repeat forever. I remember many nights listening to it in my car, and crying out to God. Especially to the song, Just Like You. The song Falling by Trip Lee is another song that I would have on repeat, especially during temptation or after a great fall. Fast forward to today, I never would’ve imagined three years ago that I would be styling one of the guys that ministered to me so much during a difficult pruning moment in my spiritual life. J. Paul was apart of my healing, which is why I am beyond grateful to work with him.

So, what do you wear to a Lecrae concert?! I’ve been wanting to do a denim on denim look for months; however every time I went shopping, something was not right. I preferred boyfriend jeans, but they are more flattering for a woman with a straight/boyish figure. Curves fill out boyfriend jeans, taking away the boyish look. But problem solved, go one size up if you share this dilemma with me. Yeah it may be loose around your waist, but isn’t that how most younger guys wear their jeans anyway?

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This look was totally inspired by first God, and secondly, current menswear trends. I’ve been researching them so much for my client, that it’s rubbed off on me. In the fitting room, I kept asking God, do you like this? are you sure? ehh it’s kind of regular God I’m going to a Lecrae concert! it’s not so flattering. is this modest enough? The Holy Spirit kept on reassuring me, hushed all of the insecurity, and then He said red lips and red nails. Internally I screamed, did a little fitting room dance, and was like, God you are the best stylist EVER! I loved it, so I immediately bought everything. This look is Lecrae concert approved; as I was able to dance all night and also able to dress myself up a little more than a t-shirt, jeans, and sneakers, without being on #TeamTooMuch.

Denim Top – H&M

Boyfriend Jeans – H&M

Gold Chain Necklace – H&M

Philtrum Jewelry – Icing

Makeup – MAC + Ruby Woo Lipstick

Shoes – Torrid

Haven’t gotten your tickets yet? Click on the image below to find a concert location near you!

The Anomaly Tour ft. Lecrae with Special Guests

So tell me, what are you wearing to the Lecrae Concert?